Dating 10 months now
Source: Shutterstock It’s good to be friends first. Some people fall in love much quicker than others; but I’m close to believing that if it takes you more than six months to decide what you want from a person, the connection just isn’t there.Most would agree that this is one of the keys to a healthy relationship; but someone should have also put a time cap on the ‘friend zone.’ While it is usually recommended to take your time to get to know the person you potentially want to be with, is there such a thing as getting to know them too long before making a commitment? Sure, taking it slow is the responsible thing to do; but taking it too slow is usually a waste of someone’s time.Many times, we can save ourselves the heartache by knowing simply when it’s time to exit a situation. Or for my no-nonsense girls, maybe you give a man three months to decide.During the first year of my relationship with my life partner (Yes, that's how he's entered in my phone. One of you starts letting negative comments slip about the others friends or family. But it might be slightly less frequent or slightly less adventurous or maybe just a little more "skip the appetizers, get to the main course" if ya know what I mean. But if you both kept your farts to yourself the 6-12 month mark is usually the period of time where you start to bond over your mutual gas and IBS issues. Just as an FYI, my parents have been happily married for 38 years and they are adamantly against ever discussing these things with each other. The spontaneous texts during the work day start to go away. At the beginning of a relationship you're both on your best behavior and at the first sign of conflict, one person usually tries to diffuse the situation as quickly as possible. " When you've hit the one year mark and you've invested enough time into the relationship where you know that one big fight won't equal break-up, then the fights get way more intense. Our pain is usually caused by one of two things: Something you did to us OR because we have nothing to wear. Every so often, you break plans with each other at the last minute to hang out with your friends.Well, now that you've been dating for a year, you feel a little safer saying: That fucker is a huge asshole and I would prefer to never hang out with him. For the H-bomb and I, it might be 90% of what we talk about. " It's not that they go away completely, but when your significant other was sending them at the beginning of the relationship, what he really meant was "I'm writing you this text so that you will know that I like you and won't look for dick anywhere else." Once you've been together for a year, he knows his territory has been marked. It was the first time I knew we were officially out of the honeymoon phase.
And even on the flipside, I don’t want to be that girl that makes a man despise all women because I’ve played tic-tac-toe with his emotions.
Or telling all your friends how in love you are and how perfect your relationship is.
I mean, there's nothing worse than having issues in your own relationship and having to listen to your friend explain how well things are going with them and their significant other.
To me, this time spent meant that either we had gotten comfortable just dating and were subconsciously tied to just that, or simply put, maybe he just wasn’t into me.
Whatever the reason, one thing was clear: we were not going to be together.